The term "community" often refers to a geographical setting—neighborhood, town, rural area, etc. Yet, it can play a much more significant role than simply to define county lines or city limits.
This is especially true for those who identify with the LGBTQ group. As you may know, many LGBTQ individuals are told they are "wrong, disordered, diseased, or an abomination" from members of certain social groups.
Especially within a handful of religious sectors, it's not uncommon for these same people to find it very difficult to be their authentic selves.
But creating or even redefining a sense of "community" can actually help to affirm LGBTQ identities rather than oppress someone's true self.
Creates a Safe Space for Self-Expression
Reaching out to hold your partner's hand or to plant a confidence-boosting kiss on their lips is often reserved for home life. Unlike heterosexual couples, physical affection in public has commonly been frowned upon for LGBTQ couples.
In the safety of a loving community, however, self-expression is not only accepted but it's encouraged. Simply being able to feel that intimate connection of human touch is an unrivaled experience—one that is vital to any thriving couple.
Although LGBTQ couples undoubtedly have a more difficult time finding a safe space for this type of self-expression, a community can help to create this space.
Fosters a Connection with Others Sharing Similar Experiences
Plenty of support groups exists for a variety of conditions and struggles. There are even clubs and organizations dedicated to particular causes or hobbies. Individuals throng to these settings because there they can find like-minded people.
An LGBTQ community offers the same type of like-mindedness. Within a circle, there will be those with whom you share similar experiences.
To put it simply, you won't always have to explain yourself, describe a situation in detail, or even struggle to find the right adjective to express yourself. Your community will just "get it."
This is a huge relief for many LGBTQ individuals...because the explaining yourself can be utterly exhausting.
Helps Those of All Sexual Orientation to "Come Out"
According to research, bisexuals are less likely to come out than gays or lesbians, for example. A large part of this seclusion is likely due to the fact that many bisexual are in committed relationships already. Still, coming out is an enormous feat for any sexual orientation other than heterosexual.
Being a part of an LGBTQ community will help bravery to well up. A community encourages you to reclaim the courage to come out, accept yourself, and live more authentically.
The main driver is simply that your "coming out" experience will fall on accepting and loving souls. Your community will open their arms to you free of judgment. And this type of acceptance often bubbles up an unparalleled sense of belonging.
Establishes an Affirming Neighborhood
Affirmation is something of a proverbial nod to most people. Along with it comes emotional support and encouragement as well. As mentioned, finding a community that is supportive, affirming, nurturing, and loving can help individuals accept themselves and live more authentically.
This type of community goes beyond walls, city limits, county lines or most other types of physical boundaries. It's an intangible strength—like having an invisible army standing behind you as you face the world (a world that often feels opposed to your lifestyle, no doubt).
Even though an LGBTQ community might stretch across entire regions, it can easily become an affirming neighborhood for many individuals.
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For more support affirming your own LGBTQ identity or finding your own sense of community, please reach out to me today. As a clergy member who identifies with the LGBTQ community, I can help you navigate your own unique challenge with compassion and understanding.